Atomic Essay 6: How to Deal When Someone Does You Wrong?
Interpret their words/action differently and it will start changing how you react.
In 1774, the German writer Goethe said: ‘Most of the chaos in this world comes from people not understanding each other or forgetting things, not from them trying to trick you. Tricky stuff is actually pretty rare’.
His theory holds truth to this day. There is this concept called the Hanlon’s razor. It’s a nifty rule that basically says don’t jump to thinking someone’s being mean when they could just be making an innocent mistake — maybe they just didn’t know better.
When we stop assuming malice in someone’s words or action — it removes the sting out of it. Most people who hurt you, didnt wake thinking today is the day they will hurt you. They do it out of their own insecurity, or in their defense, or simply because they didnt know better.
This mindset helps you move on without holding negative feelings or giving weight to the situation. Your future relationship with them is your choice. But at least you don’t carry the baggage with you.
Following this has really helped me be less angry or disappointed in people. They just didnt know better, but you do and you moved on :)
About my atomic essays: Let’s be informed, not influenced
As an adult, we stop asking questions. Or at least at the same frequency as we did as kids. I want to change that.
I want to ask more questions, and ask the right questions. These questions are not necessarily to find A RIGHT answer. They’re all about making me think more, reflect on things, and maybe even challenge some of the stuff I thought I knew.
I take it as a little adventure for my brain. Each question is like a puzzle piece, and when I put them together, they create a bigger picture of understanding. It’s a small step to become a bit better at life.
My atomic essays are a short explanation of what I learnt. Hopefully it also helps someone with something.
